10. This girl tonight. She's a handful, you know? Women who look a certain way, they... they need to be managed. It's true. Your dad ducked out on you, huh? Your mom, she didn't exactly say, but there's a kind of... neglect. Gives off a scent. You don't mind my saying, you got a lot on your shoulders for a kid. The two of you, alone. And your girl... Amy. She's ripe. I bet there's a line of guys dying to pluck that. Your mom, too. You don't see it. Maybe you do, but she's putting it out. It's on you to look after them. You up for that, guy? –FRIGHT NIGHT (2011)
This quote from Fright Night resonates with me for two different reasons: One being that it reminded me how I’m a huge nostalgia nut! Hearing Colin Farrell say this quote literally gave me goosebumps, because he had effectively done the character of Jerry Dandridge justice and considering how the original Fright Night is my favorite horror film, it was amazing to be able to feel like I was traveling back in time to when a simpler time in my life.
The second reason why this quote resonates with me is that it verified to me how bad boys can smell daddy issues from a mile away. Women may not know it, but certain men can sense your vulnerabilities and use it to their advantage. I used to be this girl and never understood why I was such a magnet for negative attention.
9. "I just prefer dating black men. It's not a prejudice, it's a preference."
"Yes, it's your preference to be prejudice." –SOMETHING NEW
Being biracial, I have always been taught to love anyone I choose. Unfortunately, I had experienced times where my affections were not received because I was half-black. Even the men I had loved deeply in my life were not as open about their prejudices right off the bat. Although few of them would ever admit it to this very day, it was obvious to me that although it was fine to sleep with a biracial girl, it wasn’t in their best interests to introduce a biracial girl to their friends or family members as their girlfriend. So after watching this movie, I had realized that a lot of people hide their prejudices by simply saying “He or she is not my “type.” It made me realize that anyone who is prejudice is not even worthy of shedding a tear for.
“A lot of bad shit is gonna happen to you. People are not gonna love you back, and if you're serious about becoming an artist, that's the first thing you should learn. And, listen, you're gonna die, okay? Relatively soon, okay? So, that being said, you have nothing to worry about.”-THE HOTTEST STATE
I love Ethan Hawke for his insightful quotes and this one from the movie he first directed really hit me. For a long time, I was always concerned with frivolous shit. If someone broke my heart, my world came crashing down. I would always wonder why me? Why can’t he love me? After years of growing up, I have learned that it’s okay not to be loved by someone you love. It’s okay to be rejected and to accept it in your life because constantly obsessing and worrying about people who simply don’t give a damn about you is pointless. Life is way too short to be worried about things that simply don’t matter in the grand scheme of things.
“writer Cyril Connolly said: Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self.” Criminal Minds
Okay…so this one is not from a movie…but rather it’s from a horrible and glamorized police procedural show. But after hearing this quote, I couldn’t help but write it down. For many years, I had written about horror films—and that was about it. It made me happy to have a fanbase simply because I knew a genre, but the older I got, the more I realized that there was more to life than horror films. I liked to go out, hang out with my friends and watch independent films that no horror fan would ever watch. It started to make me extremely unhappy because what was once a hobby that gave me joy was now defining me as a person and as a writer. I decided that although it was great to have an audience for a particular niche, that evolving was far more important to me in the long run. Now the stories and scripts I write on my spare time fulfill me more than ever.
"Just because someone likes the same bizarro crap you do, does not make them your soulmate." 500 DAYS TO SUMMER
I find it very odd that we instantly think there’s a magnetic attraction to someone simply because they like the same obscure things we do. I had fallen victim to this a few years back. When I first moved to Toronto, I had fallen very hard for a “medium-cute” bartender/actor. He loved Serge Gainsbourg, Roy Ayers and all the soul and funk bands I liked. He was a huge movie buff and enjoyed going to the small theatres to watch indies that no one I ever knew would ever download, let alone spend money on. I instantly thought we were meant to be and then he pulled the rug from right under me. He said I wasn’t his “type” (refer back to quote number 9) and decided to see a ditzy blonde girl who was 10 years younger than him instead. So it just goes to show you that you can’t always judge hobbies and interests as a clear soulmate indicator.
"Jesse: Life's hard. It's supposed to be. If we didn't suffer, we'd never learn anything. "-BEFORE SUNSET
I’ll be turning 28 next week and in these 28 years I have been through a lot. Had my heart broken more times than I would like to admit, have been in crazy life and death situations and have lost people that have meant the world to me. Sometimes I used to think there was a giant black cloud over my head (and sometimes I still do) but I realized that my life has and will always be driven by some kind of chaos. My writing only seems to flow during the most stressful times of my life and if I hadn’t gone through the things I had gone through, then I wouldn’t be who I was today. Live and let learn; that’s my motto.
“Only Unfulfilled Love Can Truly Be Romantic.” –VICKY CRISTINA BARCELONA
After hearing this quote for the first time, I got misty-eyed. I believed that it was okay to have that on and off love that pops in and out of your life and at least the memory would bring the hope and romance lacking in your life.
“Unrequited love is the perfect romantic construct, it allows two cowardly people to act out a fantasy of love without having to face any real consequences” THE ROMANTICS
This quote made me realize that what I had believed of the last quote was total utter bullshit. I finally understood that having someone pop in and out of your life at their own leisure was not cool, nor was it healthy. Memories are great, as long as you don’t live in the past. Otherwise, they continue to haunt you for years to come and make you chronically unsatisfied with your future romantic prospects. So what if you don’t get closure? Why do we always seek it anyway? Does that make it easier? I understand now that being a hopeless romantic is not conducive to one’s love life. It’s just self-destructive. Be thankful for the memories—plain and simple.
“In my opinion the best thing you can you do is find a person who loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you, the right person will still think the sun shines out of your ass. That's the kind of person that's worth sticking with."-JUNO
I had a horrible habit of comparing the men in my life to past lovers. However, I can’t say how incredible it feels to be loved by someone who accepts me for all my flaws. (I have plenty!) The person who is meant for you is the person who calls you on your birthday, who is proud to introduce you to their friends and family and who is not afraid of telling you how they feel. Throwing these people out of your life is crazy because as I have finally realized that life is not a movie. One can not expect to be swooped off their feet and live blissfully ever after with the perfect man. Relationships are constant work and if you find someone who is willing to work overtime, then you should always think twice about letting them go.
"If You're Good At Something, you should never do it for free." THE DARK KNIGHT
When you’re a freelance writer, you know how it hard it is to get paid for your hard work. After years of writing for my friends for free, I had decided that I deserved to be paid for my work. This has definitely pissed some people off who I used to work with, but I realized that the only way I was going to get my foot in the door was to be selfish for a change. Like the Joker said,” if you’re good at something, you should never do it for free.” (Unless of course it’s sex. ;)