Family Visit Panic
My husband and I just kinda hang out with each other. Sometimes his brother will come round but basically we keep to ourselves. The people who live in this city are judge mental assholes that are seldom trusted. Especially by two collectors who love their stuff. Both of our families live out of town, his closer to get to. Mine all live in Oklahoma.
I have not seen my mother in three years. I have not seen my father in almost five. They are both divorced but still do stuff with each other.
I got a call last night that my folks are going to drive up to go to some class reunion thing and then drive up to my husband and I and stay two weeks and have Thanksgiving is that okay?
So, what am I to say? I was put on the spot and I told my husband and he says fine even though that is not the case as I would come to find out in just a few moments.
Yes, that is a bit long and it does interrupt the routine my husband and I have accustomed ourselves to for 7 years.
My father spent a week with us in 02 and my mother a few days in 04 so it is not like my husband does not know them.
Anyway, what could I do. Both my parents are way older than his parents and I never get to see them and I miss them and yes they can wear on you but how long do I have my parents left? When they go it will devastate me.
Abandonment is a major issue for me as well as death and mourning.
I do not blame my husband for feeling the way he does. What is done is done and he will have to deal with it. I told him he is under no obligation to entertain them every damn moment. My father is going to leave for a few days to see a friend of his and he will pay for everything. Hell he will probably take Sean to the Casino and give him some cash to fool with.
What will happen will be what is expected. There will be fun and there will be uncomfortable stuff and it will be over and then who knows when I will see them again.
They will have their own car, Sean and his brother can leave on a San Francisco trip for a day and I will deal with it in my own way but I can't say no and I was never about to. I don't think that is selfish. I have not seen them in years and I miss them. My husband is just going to have to adjust like I am going to. Besides, it will be nice to have more that just two people for the Holiday meal for a change. But, now I have to find some damn tv dinner table trays!!! I don't have a damn kitchen table hell I don't have any damn bar stools hehehheh I have plenty of chairs just no table things so crap I have to go look for those now.
It will be fine.
Neutral
I don't know because I'm not married but I don't think something like that is really up for discussion no matter what. Pretty much everyone owes it to their parents to provide them room, board, and company around the holidays. Sounds like you're just doin