First date in ten years so I'm nervous. Thought wearing white was appropriate since my last relationship was so loveless I'm practically revirginized, lol.
It's just a date so relax and just have fun Batgirl! You deserve to have some fun! You were with your last guy for 10yrs? That is amazing.
A+ pic, good luck and remember just because he buys dinner doesn't mean you owe him anything.
You look great. Whoever this guy is, I hope understands that he's lucky and treats you right. Have fun.
Unfortunately the last month I had invested in this was all in vain; just elaborate lies covered by half-truths and when uncovered was regrettably too late. I would've never dreamed someone would go to such lengths to fool me, would've led me to believe in something I thought wasn't possible; for me any ways. I have never done anything to harm anyone in my entire life, I have always been generous and trusting to a fault. To have my world turned around then stomped on the next day is sickening and I honestly don't know how a person can continue to carry on this way without realizing the crushing effect it must have on the people they are manipulating. The funny thing is I know I am way too good of a person for it to be something that's wrong with me so why am I not angry? Why instead am I so upset? I guess it's the ideas this person awoke in me about the possibilities of a relationship that I'd dreamed of, one that I had all but ruled out of ever happening when I had settled with the thought in my last relationship that this was as good as it's going to get. How do you move on from feeling like the center of someone's universe to then being sucked into a black hole?
If I can offer some wisdom (if only I kept some for myself), allow yourself to be angry. Get it out but then move on. Have confidence in yourself (you know you are a good person, you said so :-) ), know what you want and focus only on the things/people that positively contribute to those things.
I have through lots of nasty stuff (as everyone on here likely has) including having my heart broken as well as a divorce (two separate event, my split from my ex-wife was actually pretty easy). What has got me through all of it and particularly what has contributed to some real happiness in my 40s is a real focus on what I want and the people around me that enable those things. I am a big believer in tuning out the noise. Tough to do but it pays off.
For me, it's my two boys, my better half, my training and my work.
Sorry, rambling now. I hope this helps even if only a little.
Thx Fabster, I already feel a million times better today, it's amazing what a good night's sleep can do. I worked a lot of shit out in my dreams, lol, realized that I was lucky to have caught this early and not months down the road. Also surprising enough I came to the conclusion that I wasn't really into this guy as much as thought I was, once you took away all the "talk". I wasn't even attracted to him in the first place and it was this "talk" that hooked me or I would've stuck with my principles and walked away. (That and the fact that a friend kind of pushed me toward him, citing it would be good for me as a practice run back into the dating scene) Is it too bad that it was all talk...yeah, I could've seen us being great together had it all not been a game. I've never put someone's physical appearance ahead of one's personality, of course there has to have been some hint of chemistry but looks fade and change, emotional compatibility is what drives me to stay. Any ways I know it's cliché to say but it's really fucking true in this case; it's his loss. I am about as close to a 10 on a physical, intellectual, and emotional scale as this guy will have ever had and in the end that's about all the justice I need...
"I am about as close to a 10 as this guy will have ever had and in the end that's about all the justice I need..."
That made my day :-)
That's a great and healthy attitude to have, BatGirl.
100% totally his loss.
Waiting on a date...wish me luck!